Sex addict - bollox!!

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Where possible before writing I always like to get as many facts as I can first, unless I am writing about a personal experience of course; whilst I agree that most of what is read in the papers isn't always true they are a good source of information.

Just recently there has been a story in the paper that Michael Douglas has reportedly blamed the cause of his cancer on oral sex - now when I first saw this story line my first thought was 'Get in, the old guy still eats out', however I then quickly changed it to 'Poor Catherine'. I mean imagine opening the news paper to read that your husband has blamed his cancer on the fact that he has oral sex; I for one would be sooooo embarrassed!! After reading this (granted at that time I had only read the head line) I thought straight away I must write about it, however luckily for me I didn't quite get round to it, as the very next day it was all change "Michael Douglas DID NOT say that oral sex caused his cancer". No smoke without fire comes to mind (cough,cough).

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How inconsiderate, I didn't even get a chance to feature this in my blog before the story had already changed (huff, sigh). But there are a few points that we can consider in this (or should I say these) story(s) - whilst I was concerned about Catherine's feelings, although it turns out he wasn't referring to when he pleasures his wife it turns out he use to be a sex addict....!! Not sure which is
worse, she must be mortified to have that all dragged out in the public eye The fact that IF indeed Douglas did get the cancer from eating out it wasn't while he was with her but one of a string of women he had to satisfy his need/addiction. I mean come on a sex addiction, what a load of shit!! That is clearly the biggest excuse I have ever heard for someone to have sex with as many people as they like & think they can get away with it.

Tiger Woods is another one who was outted as having a string of women behind his wife's back - if you have a sex addiction go home & fuck your wife don't think this is a green light for you to fuck everyone but!! If his wife had done that she would have been branded a slut & he would have divorced her quicker than you can say "sex" & left her high & dry....

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These clinic's must be literally laughing all the way to the bank when they have people, never mind so called celebrities checking into their establishment claiming to have a sex addiction - I mean what do you prescribe for that, the mind boggles. I think I will  open one of these clinics, charge a ridiculous amount to patients that are admitted & then treat them to getting slapped round the face with a wet fish & told to get a grip before sending them on their way :o)

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By the time I get in from work the Postman has usually been & delivered his usual pile of bills & junk mail (yawn) however the other day when I got home I was greeted by a parcel. How exciting I thought as I ripped through the box & packaging - how right I was to have been excited. There staring back at me, almost smiling with delight, was a white box with the word 'Lelo' written on.
Now if you said that word to most people they would not have the foggiest what you meant, not me, I was grinning like a Cheshire cat thinking come to mamma....

This is the latest in stylish, sophisticated, sleek, almost upper class vibrating machine!! Now when you read the description it will tell you its massager that will ease muscle tension in legs, arms, neck & shoulders, as well as anywhere else you like. Now if you order a powerful 8.6 inch vibrating machine from a sex shop you are NOT wanting it to ease tension in your neck! Which is not why I have one of course, I went straight in & used it to relieve tension "anywhere else" as mentioned :o)

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This is sex toy technology at its best, for one no batteries needed (which I found out to my delight
when I went in for the kill) you just attached the wire & plug it in for a couple of hours then your away. But before we get started on just what this bad boy can actually do, let me just mention the fab design. It looks & feels sleek & silky, this has clearly been designed by a woman with women in mind - sister ya did good. I found myself just sitting there stroking it for a while its that smooth. The end has clearly been made to look like the head of a man's penis, which is very clever & feels very much like a real cock (one that has no fore skin of course). If you are someone that may go a little red in the cheeks if this is seen by wandering eyes then you can easily pass it off as a "massager" as un-like some other toys its not so obvious & in your face (i.e there are no vein's or ball bags attached). The buttons to control this bad boy are down the length of the wand - which is the correct name, the Lelo Smart Wand & let me tell you this wand actually does do magic :o)
It is available in different colours & there is a variety of shapes & sizes in the Lelo range, not to mention that it is water proof so they could be bath time fun thrown into the mix.

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So after bigging up the look & design did it disappoint in the enjoyment factor - did it hell. This machine has sense touch technology so the tingling vibrations build on contact with your skin. It offers 8, that's right 8 different vibrating patterns including pulsing; you control how fast you want these vibrations with sleek plus & minus buttons on the side, with a middle button changing the rhythm of the movement. I'm gonna be honest - the first time I used this machine I didn't even get
off of the first setting before I was away (light weight). However letting someone else use it on you is a good way to go through the settings as you have no control over the buttons & especially if you have no idea what is coming next (more than likely will be you) - all that excitement at the press of a button.      

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Now you may look at this range & think blimey they are a bit pricey (the Smart Wand retailing at £79) but you have to look at the bigger picture here; no batteries so no hidden cost & a 10 year warranty - you do the maths (365 days in a year times 10 divided by 79 that's a small price to pay for a large amount of orgasm).
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Even if you haven't watched the film everyone has at least seen the clip from When Harry Met Sally, you know the one, where Meg Ryan slaps the table in the diner having an orgasm - or at least
that's what we are led to believe. In a recent survey it has been revealed that 74% of women say that they too fake having an orgasm during sex. Surly it takes more effort to fake it then to actually lay back, think of England (if that's what floats your boat) & let the real juices flow?

When you meet someone there must be an attraction of some description, otherwise you wouldn't be interested in the first place. Whether its an instant sexual attraction or whether the attraction grows from personality, in time they have something you like for you to get into bed with them. If when you take the plunge & slide between the sheets you are left disappointed then you would have to be pretty heartless to just throw the towel in there & then. I'm all for "try before you buy" however if you like it but it doesn't quite fit then you see if there is a way to squeeze into it first before you discard it. 

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If someone doesn't press the right buttons or do things the way you like them to be done then teach them, don't toss them. Everyone is different & what works for one isn't necessarily what the next
person likes. If you like to be touched, licked, stroked, fucked etc in a certain way then don't be afraid to say - experimenting is a great way to find out what the other person likes but don't be shy.
If he is attempting to flick the bean but is going at it like an eraser the end of a pencil rubbing out a mistake speak up; say 'ease the pressure there babe' or 'can you slow it down a bit'. If you just lay there like a limp biscuit how will he know he is getting it wrong....The same applies for a man, if she is tugging at your cock like she is going to tug it off then tell her! Its easier for a woman to know she is getting it wrong as a man won't go hard if he isn't enjoying it, where as there are no physical signs a woman isn't having a good time - men rely on the moans (unless she is so turned off its as dry as the Sahara between her legs!).  

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There are different ways of "faking it"; I have a friend who lives by the 1% rule. When I quizzed her some more she revealed that she allows herself to keep 1% of the truth & not tell her husband. To explain further (in her own words) - 'He knows I fancy David Beckham but he doesn't need to know that I think about him when we have sex'. So although she gets her big O its not entirely down to the person she is with, its assisted by the art of imagination.

It isn't only women who are guilty of this, 44% of men have also admitted to faking it, although
how they do this is a bit of a mystery. How can you not know....?? It is physically obvious if a man is enjoying himself as he will have an erection & that is not an easy thing to hide (sometimes embarrassing if it pops up in public). Also when a man reaches orgasm he ejaculates, which if done without warning can be messy! How a woman would miss it if she had a pearl necklace I will never know. Now you could say what if the man is wearing a condom then how would you know & unless you go sifting through the bin you may not but even without actually seeing it you would know. The little twitches everyone gets when they finally pop it & reach the end of their goal - you can't fake those.
There is something that can happen to men called 'Retograde ejaculation', which means that instead of ejaculating the mans sperm actually gets redirected back up inside into the bladder. So he could have had the best orgasm of his life yet no seamen will have been released (not sure what happens to it after its redirected but tissues are not needed).

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They say you learn something new everyday, how true that is. I saw an advert a couple of weeks back for a program called "Dogging Tales" on channel 4 (nothing to do with Crufts), on the way to work I mentioned it to my mate. I said I was going to watch it for research purposes to see what all the fuss was about & to be in a position to write a blog post for my beloved fans of course. As far as I was aware you drove to a sight, had sex in your car & if people wanted to they could pull up in their car & watch  they could or have sex themselves (from the comfort of their own motor). To which she replied 'If you go to these places & keep your light on that means your available for people to come & have sex with you'. Er what, that's news to me I thought, not to mention how on earth did she know about this? Upon questioning (after the laughing stopped) she had no idea how she had stumbled across this information but that was the start of my fact finding on the subject.

The first I ever heard of this activity was when footballer Stan Collymore was in the paper for being caught & exposed as a Dogger. Apparently there is a big sight where this takes place in the West Midlands, near where he lives. According to the news he went around 15 times after reading about it on the internet - who the hell goes out & has sex with strangers in public cause they read something about it on their computer, especially when they have a wife at home!! He was outed by two Sun reporters after texting them asking inviting them to join him for "some fun".

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How embarrassing for his poor wife; all he could say was 'I hope she finds it in her heart to forgive me', I bet you do love. Whats wrong with staying home & making love to your wife, the lady you stood in church with & said your vows too - i'm sure it reads to have & to hold not to go dogging in the cold!

Everyone featured in this program wore animal masks (only covering their eyes & not changing
their voices so you may see them down the local or even know them) which made me think was it all a joke or was this actually a serious documentary. When asked why he did went dogging one of the first guys interviewed claimed he was looking for the furry triangle - if that's anything like the Bermuda triangle you will be looking for some time! He was a truck driver with no family, wife or girlfriend & just literally wanted no strings attached sex, which quite frankly I'm sure he could of got anywhere not just from one of these places. Still sat in the drivers seat of his truck, hand on his crouch with a fox mask on I couldn't take him serious....
The documentary went on to follow a married couple who visit these sights all the time. This guy allows his wife to have sex with as many men as she wants & we even saw them stood around watching forming an orderly queue as if they were waiting in line at Tesco! While her husband watches she literally has sex with heaps of men one after the other. When I said out loud in disgust 'That is just nasty she doesn't even wash between men, she can't as they are in the woods' my other half casually said 'Yep that guy is stirring another mans gravy' YUK!! The man behind the camera asked why they did it; she said she had self esteem issues & it made her feel better while the husband said it makes her happy so he is all for it. They were asked aren't they worried if someone does something they don't like but the husband assured us that there are rules which he sets out to the queue of men first - they are his rules!!

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These women are the lowest of the low, I mean at least a prostitute gets paid for her services, these girls are just giving themselves away. They clearly have no respect for their bodies, not to mention the safety aspect of it; How do they know that one of these men is not a complete psycho or a serial killer & isn't just gonna flip out or pull a weapon out (other than their cock). There appears to be no thought given to protection, apart from the guy filmed taking his condom off & throwing it on the floor.
I Googled Dogging after watching the program (out of curiosity) only to find site after site filled with maps, lists of places to meet & even times. It is surprising just how many are on your own door step - woodland area's, parks & even picnic area's. Who wants to take their family out on a lovely sunny day & put their sandwiches down where someone has had their arse cheeks the night before - disgusting! Why do they need to tarnish the few places we have that we can take our family, our children with this filth??

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After all this digging around I don't agree with it & certainly don't understand it, watch some porn if
you want to see someone else having sex (its not rocket science & your less likely to get in hot water if you are caught) don't go sliding your bum cheeks where people go to tuck into their sarnys!        

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A case of the ex

Question; When a relationship ends, can you (or should you) stay friends?

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There appears to be an equal divide on this one & believe it or not men are not the ones saying yes you can, most of them are with me on this saying its a no go. Let's face it, if they are an Ex its for a reason. You've split, no longer together, surplus to requirements - which ever way you look at it, it all adds up to the same thing; it's over! Some may think that sounds harsh, especially if it's been an amicable split agreed by both parties. You may even still love each other but just not be IN love with each other, grown apart & see the other more in a friend way or like a brother/sister (hypothetical not in an incest way!!). Even if that were the case, great there is no shouting, cutting up of garments or holes in walls but what about when one of you meet someone new, what then?
You have to imagine what it is like for that person coming into a relationship when the Ex is still hanging around - awkward springs to my mind. I mean what are they gonna do exchange notes on how many times a week you done it....

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For example Simon Cowell says he stays friends with all his Ex's, is regularly seen out with them (sometimes more than one at a time!) & has even taken some of them on holiday! Maybe it's the money & fame that keep them coming back who knows, all I know is that it gets to a point where they look desperate (not to mention names - Sinitta). Simon has even gone on outings with a currant girlfriend & Ex's at the same time! Now these Ex's maybe fame hungry but jeez what are these women thinking, eating out with someone that their boyfriend has literally eaten out....
The men are as much to blame, how dare they put their girlfriends in that position in the first place.
What makes them think you want to sit opposite their cast off's, she didn't make the cut otherwise you'd still be together, so as Micheal Jackson sung "Beat it!!".

I find staying friends with an old flame puzzling enough but when that person has treated you badly; be it cheated, shown violence, broken your heart - why would you want to talk to them never mind see them again? Obviously you loved them & emotions don't just get turned off like a switch (which is a shame) but dam they hurt you & therefore are not worth any of your time, effort or anything else for that matter. Take Kat & Alfie in Eastenders, now before you start I know it's
not real, but some people ARE like that in real life. She not only cheated on him numerous times & he forgave her when he found out, she had a child with his cousin & he STILL took her back! He loved her so much that he was prepared to try & see past what she had done & all the damage she had caused, but clearly that was never gonna work. However when they did finally split he still loaned her money, helped her get a job & wanted to treat the child like his own. To me that's just making a bad situation worse & you need to cut as many ties as possible.
Having children involved does change things, I totally get that & contact is going to have to happen, but you exchange pleasantries for the sake of keeping the piece for the child & then send them on their way. You don't laugh, joke & carry on like nothings happened - that's just crazy. Imagine how awkward it would be for your new partner if your Ex came round, laughing & joking with you like you were bestie's. I would be thinking "Er why do you wanna do that after what they did to you?".

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Maybe it's me, maybe I hold grudges, who knows. All I do know is that if someone is an Ex, especially if they have hurt me then they are in the past. An Ex is an Ex for a reason - good, bad or ugly they are behind you & you should always look forward. If you keep looking backwards your more likely to trip up & never completely move onto bigger & better things :)

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M&M's - melt in the mouth, not in the hand....

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From as far back as I can remember everyone loves M&M's, however if what I read in the paper is true then this is not the case; after all if it's in the Sun newspaper then it MUST be true, right?
With everything that is going on in the world that is actual & factual news, the sun has taken the time to write a full article on some bird who has (supposedly) got 40MMM size boobs suffocating her man, oh no sorry her ex man....

Now before you start harping on that I am jealous, I'm not, I have more than enough to contend with carrying 34K's around & it most definitely has nothing to do with her looks (sorry love but I had to say it).

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I would make a great detective, believe it or not & this article is full of flaws. For example she states she suffocated her ex boyfriend during sex three years ago, yet in the next paragraph it says she is a mother of three children - the youngest being three. Now you don't have to be great at maths to work out that she would either have to had to have been nine months pregnant or have just given birth - to another mans child! (Her ex before him, who is her husband & father of all three kids, confused much - keep up). There are a lots of things going on in your mind when you are about to have a baby or just become a mother & smothering your boobs in someones face to the point they can't breath certainly isn't one of them.
So to summarize; she separated from her husband for a while (length not disclosed), got with
someone else who she had freaky sex with while she was pregnant or just given birth to the husbands baby & now her & the husband are back together after she nearly killed the other guy. After all of this her husband is more than happy to have this plastered all over one of the biggest tabloids, as well as having their children posing in a photo with them - I can hear one thing loud & clear; pound signs flashing in their eyes. Her poor children, this will haunt them.... 

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Then you have the part where she brags that she has done photo shoots & been paid £150 a pop for these, only to go on & moan about the price of bra's & that she has to get them made. As you read on it says they cost her £200 each - well if you get paid £150 a shoot then you have 2 cups & one strap paid for right there.
If that weren't enough she talks about when she was younger & how hard it was to have massive breasts while being a dress size 6; what on earth happened there, unless she meant shoe size 6?? If they caused that much inconvenience or discomfort you would get a boob reduction right - wrong, she can't have one as she needs to lose eight stone!! All the reasons (I call them excuses) she gives are later quashed by a doctor at the end of the article, which also leads me to roll my eyes & just think she done it all for a pay cheque.

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Now this is not me being mean, its me being honest about someone who doesn't appear to have a job & is cashing in on something that is nothing more than a part of everyday life for some of us (The average breast size in the UK is now 34DD & lets face it, they are no fried eggs). Having big boobs certainly isn't breaking news & should be kept where it belongs, featured on page three.
If anything then the chocolate company that make M&M sweets should contact her to appoint her their ambassador - after all their famous slogan is "They melt in your mouth, not in your hand".

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Say my name....

Gone are the days when people use terms correctly & do as the saying goes "call a spade a spade", things are given names (that probably took forever to think of in the first place) just for someone(s) to come along & re-name it.
This is no different when it comes to sex & relationships; I'm sure at some point you have heard a phrase & thought "Eh....??" Well I have chosen to share but a few to try & clear up the confusion. Granted this is by no means all of them, as people make them up as they go along (& I welcome any others that aren't mentioned). SO here goes (never know you might even learn something new):-

Blow Job (thought i'd start with a common one) = Basically this is when a man has his penis sucked, so why its not called a suck job I will never know. Also known as oral sex, BJ, giving head,  pole assault, lick the lolly pop (as 50 cent says) & giving a shiner.
On occasion it can be referred to as Deep throat but that's only if it tickles the tonsils. You may have heard the term "Tea bagging" this is nothing to do with the penis, its when a man lowers his balls into someones mouth & has them sucked. He bobs them up & down, in & out of the mouth in the same action as you would dip a tea bag into hot water to make a brew - hence the name :o)

Licking a girl out (it is what it says on the tin!) = The clue is in the title, someone licking a girls vagina. Also goes by the name of eating the furry burger, drinking from the furry cup (even though no sipping is involved), eating out (my personal fav), going down & muff diving (no snorkel needed).

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Having sex = Two people having sexual intercourse. Alternatively having a shag, a fuck, making love, having a poke, a bone (I would say no dogs involved but I suppose that's a personal opinion depending on appearance), a rodgering, a screw, hump, a bit of nookie, banging it out, bump & grind (R Kelly doesn't see anything wrong with that), a bonk, hide the salami, hanky panky - the possibilities are endless with this one....

Anal sex = When you have intercourse in the bum! You may have heard knocking the back doors
in, hitting the dirt track when the red river is flowing, tap that arse, chocolate log, a poke in the brown eye, butt fuck or just good old & to the point: Take it up the arse!!

Rimming = When you have your bottom hole licked, could be also known as licking the chocolate star fish.

Tit wank = When a man slides his penis between a woman's breast - plain & simple.

Fingering = When you have fingers inserted into holes, be it front or back!

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Fisting = When someone (not 100% sure if they are human) manages to get a whole fist into one of their holes, again front or back! I imagine you are thinking how on earth does this happen, I can only imagine with a LOT of lube & pain killers....

Wank = When a man pleasures himself. Could be referred to masturbation  as spanking the monkey (another animal reference ), tugging the salami, Tommy Tank (good old cockney slang), seeing Palm & her 5 sisters, crack one off, toss, jerk off, hand job, manual handling & bashing the bishop (forgive me for adding religion in the mix).
However when it comes to women playing with themselves they have their own terms - flicking the bean (broad, baked, runner you decide), muffin buffin & polishing the pearl.

Its not just sexual terms that have been named & re-named over & over, its our sexual private parts to:-

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Penis = Dick, cock (roosters are known for getting up in the morning), sausage, willy, meat & two veg (balls included), tally whacker, love stick, trouser snake, pecker, wiener, dinky (no relation to the telly tubbies), schlong & pork sword (I kid you not) to name a few.
Vagina = Fanny, clit, cunt, flaps, bottom lips, flange, fanjita, minge, love tunnel & pussy (what is it with animal names jezzz).
Boobs = Tits, baps, bazoockers, melons, babilons, knockers, lady lumps, breasts & racks.

I am under no illusion that this is barely touching the tip of names but its always good to start
somewhere. So ladies if your man says to you "Let me tea bag you with my meat & two veg" this has no relevance to winning & dinning & if your girlfriend ever says to you "Get ready to go muff diving before I jerk you off" this has nothing to do with a caribbean food or a holiday :o)